If you cannot get to the Gilbert Municipal Court during business hours and you feel threatened by domestic violence, call 911 and request a temporary order of protection. The police will connect your call to a judge who is on-call for this purpose.
Have a Domestic Violence Safety Plan
Many injuries and incidents can be avoided by planning ahead. Create a plan for handling the next domestic violence incident that occurs, including how to get out of the house and/or who to contact for help quickly. For additional assistance concerning your safety, call a local shelter to develop a safety plan. In the mean time, these tips may help you.
During a Violent Outburst
If you are in an argument:
- leave/stay away from the kitchen or other rooms with weapons.
- stay out of rooms without exits, like the bathroom or closet.
- if possible get to a room with an exit and/or a phone.
- develop a code word or signal for friends, children, and neighbors to call police.
- call 9-1-1 or the local emergency number.
- teach your child to call 9-1-1.
- use your instincts.
If you have a protective order
- Always keep at least one copy with you at all times.
- If your abuser violates the order call 9-1-1 or your local emergency number (you have the right to ask that a police report be filed).
- Give a copy of the order and a picture of the defendant to security at your job or school.
- If your children are included on the order, give a copy of the order to their school, daycare or babysitter.
- For more information about restraining orders.
If You Plan to Leave
If you think you may want to leave your abuser, a careful plan is needed to ensure your safety once you have left. Do not let your abuser know of your plans; act as if things are unchanged.
It is important to organize cards, money, keys, and any needed documents so they are available should you leave in a hurry. Keep the following items together, in case you leave quickly:
- Driver's license/picture ID
- Birth certificates
- Social security cards/numbers
- Health benefit cards
- Welfare identification
- Address/phone book
- Keys
- Money, credit cards, checkbook
- Immunization records
- Children's favorite toys and blankets
- Diaper bag
Also:
- Leave a bag with money, keys, clothing, and diapers at someone's house
- Know the fastest exit from your home
- Know the closest phone to call for help
If You Leave
Leaving an abusive relationship is a very difficult step, and one of courage and strength. This step can also be dangerous if you do not plan in advance to maintain safety.
Once you have left an abusive relationship, here are some things to consider:
- Getting a restraining order.
- Program 9-1-1 into the speed dial on your phone
- Inform friends, neighbors, daycare/babysitter, and coworkers that you are no longer with your abuser, so they can screen your calls or call the police if your abuser shows up
- Provide your daycare/babysitter with a list of people who have permission to pick up your child
- Change the locks on your doors occasionally and install a security system
- Avoid social places or stores that you frequented while with your abuser
Most importantly, if you are considering returning to the abusive relationship, call a local shelter, counselor or domestic violence hotline number. They can help you talk about your feelings and plan for safe options should you return.
